Anything they can do, I can do better.

Everything below is an opinion. There are many individuals this will not apply to. This is merely a practice in thinking out differences in gender and how individuals react to these differences.

Lately, I've been pondering how a man's mind works when deciding what kind of woman he wants. I tend to hang out with men more so than women. As I watch them play video games, watch movies or even browse the internet, a set of common qualities has risen as to what makes a woman sexy. Famous women, who are wearing next to nothing, who are dirty, sweaty, curvy, who are complete teases are just some of what seem to turn men on. However, when looking at what kind of woman a man wants to date or end up with, the characteristics desired tend to differ. Dancing seductively in public, wearing racy clothes and acting like a tease are not exactly the qualities a man wants in a partner.

The separation seems to occur between reality/relationships and fantasy/entertainment. There are not many men, at least men who I would consider mature and emotionally and mentally healthy, who would want to date a woman who would flaunt her body around in the public eye. I tend to think that a man would not want millions of other men lusting after their girlfriend, fiancee, wife, etc. However, when the woman is an idea, an object, in a sense, meant to be admired for her appearance, inappropriate actions and obvious sexuality are encouraged.

The problem that can occur is that many women are unable to differentiate between the two. Insecurities can arise. Almost every woman I have met cares about her appearance. No matter how much a man may compliment a woman, she almost always looks at herself in a critical way. I have to think that most women care deeply about being attractive to the special man in their life. I, personally, know that all my close girl friends work out, eat healthy, shower, and take time to look good. What can be frustrating is that all the women on television, in movies, in magazines have help. Naturally they do not look that amazing. Whether it is that they spend hours a day working out, pay people to do their hair, or they are simply photoshopped in anything they do, it is unlikely that any Hollywood female is 100% au naturale.

I have taken this realization as an opportunity to work on my self esteem. As I have become an adult, I have become acutely aware of how the media influences what I view as important to how I see myself. Therefore, while trying to better myself, I have also taken time to decide the type of woman I want to be. I want to feel good about myself and I want to find someone who reacts just as strongly to who I am and what I look like as he does to any woman he may see on tv.